Look at that, you’ve made it over half way through the process. Well done guys! See it wasn’t as hard as you thought it was going to be, hey? You had a greater sense of yourself and what you needed than you thought, I’ll bet. Maybe, dare I say, you had more talent than you expected and look you found new and old friends who get it, who get you, who support you and all you are trying to do. The universe has shown itself to be quite magical sometimes, hasn’t it? Opened up doors you never knew existed…or that the “likes of you” could have ever been a part of. Isn’t that great…isn’t that amazing, isn’t this everything.
And guess what!
Just at that moment, that very moment where you start to relax in the moment…feel a stronger sense than ever before that you really have got this…a determination and an energy for something that makes your brain sing and your heart swell…don’t things just start to go all bloody wonky again. WTH!
It can look like anything.
Life throws you a curve ball like never before.
That thing on the thing suddenly isn’t working out like you thought it would.
That surety turned out to be not quite so.
That razzle/dazzle you were enjoying has now gone and lost some of it’s shine.
Sometimes this wonky can come from within – you might be stirring up some stuff inside you that just has to come out.
Sometimes it comes from our outside – a relationship, a health, a finance, a new situation.
I don’t know what the “thing” is for you, but I do know for sure that this happens.
This happens to everyone.
This is infact as much a part of the process as the good stuff.
This just is.
This is what life is too.
The other thing I know for sure is this isn’t because of you, it is just what is happening right now and it really, really sucks. All we can hope is of it’s passing as quickly as possible and our growth on the other side.
The good thing about this bit, is we get to have a little control over this bit.
1. We can help ourselves to understand when we are dealing with a something, with a now thing and when we are holding onto the something or the now thing. There is a difference and it is important we try to see when that line has been crossed.
2. We can work on dealing with the thing in it’s very own, abstract space and try to not let it rain too much into the stuff we can still hold as good.
3. We can hold our knowing that this shit happens to everyone not just us because of our laziness, unluckiness, uselessness or whatever our “beat ups” are.
4. We can do this by remembering our true sense of who we are still, separate from this “thing” that has come to unsteady us.
5. We can give up the blame and the guilt and the brain rambles with some of the things we have done with this project and the 2 before in this blog. (See I did prep us!)
6. And this one, my most favourite of favourites of all of these …we can keep our sense of humour of all things…because that truly can be the best medicine of all in the face of so much.
I am sincerely sorry to anyone right now who is experiencing their “down” time. I know mine will hilariously occur usually the day after I have confided in someone just how good things are. We CANNOT let this stop our celebrations though – these down times come – we can’t eliminate them by not looking at the good either. That just makes us grey. Our times of celebration’s will come back – that is another thing I definitely know!
Don’t give up on your projects if you can when these dips come. The dips mean you are still in the process, you are still on your path. Even if you need to totally scale down for a while, that is ok, just try to keep walking though. You will come to the other side of this.
The dips and the downs and the downright blown off course’s are always going to be there for us as they are, sadly, the process of life. Sometimes just knowing that can keep that croc at bay!
Always walking with you on this.
CX